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Like every serious relationship, every serious friendship will face a test of strength. If you’re lucky, it’s just helping your pal move, or faking an alibi for him. But some of us have to deal with a more delicate challenge.
A long time ago, one of my best friends got dumped. Turns out, his girlfriend had feelings for me. Even though I didn’t want to hurt my friend, let’s just say the blood left my brain. Here’s what I learned, and what you’ll learn too if you ever make the same mistake.
1. The Sex Is Awesome
It’s shameful to admit, but knowing that our hookup could be harmful and hurtful only enhanced the experience. There was a huge element of risk involved, which made the physical experience beyond incredible. If you’ve ever had sex in public, you know what I’m talking about–especially if you’ve had sex on a roller coaster.
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2. You’ll Feel Incredibly Guilty
If you have any conscience at all, a wave of guilt will take over your entire being. You’ll constantly feel the urge to confess to your friend and beg for his forgiveness, but you also know that his ignorance is bliss–and the only thing keeping your friendship together. The longer you wait, the worse it gets.
3. Things Will Never Be The Same
Even if you’re able to patch things up with your friend (and that’s a big “if”), you won’t have the same rapport. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing; it could even be a deeper rapport. But one thing’s for sure: You won’t meet his new girlfriend until their wedding day.
4. Don’t Expect A Relationship Out Of It
You might be having great sex, but–with all the guilt and other emotional baggage–it’s probably not gonna turn into a sustainable romance. In my case, we quickly called it off because neither of us felt good about it.
5. Friendship Can Survive Anything
Not all friendships, of course, but if your buddy is forgiving enough, you might even have a good laugh at it someday. (He should make the joke, however, not you.)